i learnt something in my "Effective People Management" module in school today..



- Conflicts

- Misunderstandings

- Bad decisions



often we are under the misconception, including myself previously, that conflicts are the main issue derived from misunderstandings..



the lecturer made known these few points, read this:



Misunderstandings need not lead to conflicts

In other words, conflicts don't necessary come from misunderstandings

vice versa... conflicts may/may not lead to misunderstanding...

the main thing that you get out of misunderstandings... most of the time.. are bad decisions...



sounds confusing?

here's an example..

A and B has a misunderstanding with each other...

they may not have a conflict before or ever... in fact... they go on with their lives and communicate with each other as friends do...

but the misunderstanding came from A or B observing of something that the other party had done before...



that thought or critism inside your mind or heart is the main issue of how misunderstandings came about..

it may not be that verbal conflict... its all in the mind



and with that negative thought...

or a past experience.... even AFTER forgiving and making up with each other...

as many people do forgive and make up.... BUT somehow some hidden unforgiveness is harboured somewhere inside you...



listen carefully here...



it is that misunderstanding...especially if tat person is involved...... that will affect your decision making badly...